Here’s another video from our good friend Ken Howard
‘rapport talk’ the language of inclusion that we learn in our family of origin and being mindful of how those tools work with different people can help us better communicate with the people we care about and work with.
You may have noticed by now that I am really interested in human behavior. Especially how we can be closer to the people who are important to us. Of course, good health is one of the ways that we can be closer, simply being alive and able to interact is (obviously) important and that’s why I write for Minute Movement. But there are other things that we can do to foster intimacy in our personal relationships.
I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this article since I read it last week. It showcases a recent study in Australia that appears to show that physical and emotional closeness with a loved one can reduce situational stress.
Before you get too excited, remember that the study only explored the subject within the context of the Mother-Daughter relationship, so it’s not safe to assume that the results can be expected with other relationships.
BUT
The researchers concluded that having ‘a strong relationship with a loved one can help ease stress when placed in difficult situations’, in essence, these family pairs were sharing the emotional load of one another (conversely, ‘individuals function at a relative deficit when they are farther away from people they trust’). Isn’t that amazing?
The Mother/Daughter groups rated the level of closeness in their relationship prior to the girls giving a speech while the researchers tracked their level of stress. The stress levels that the daughters experienced during the speech was reduced when their mothers held their hands – regardless of how they had rated their relationship. The girls whose mothers did not hold their hands but reported a close relationship with their mothers also experienced less stress than the girls who spoke alone and didn’t feel close to their mothers.
So there you go – cultivate your relationships – the benefits are immeasurable and it’s a fantastic way to …
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PS – I picked the colors in the graphic above because they are my daughter’s favorites. 🙂
My migraines are in full force this week and I am in complete survival mode. That means taking care of myself, getting a LOT of sleep, and cutting my tasks list to the bare necessities. It doesn’t help that this is also one of the three busiest times of the year (Christmas-time and late spring wrap up that tricky trinity). So I can’t stop thinking about ways to be more efficient (and less crazy)!
So this week, just in case any other Minute Movers are feeling overwhelmed I will share a few articles that I’ve recently found helpful; the first of which is by Christy Wright (speaker, writer, and coach whose articles I often find via Dave Ramsey’s Facebook page). In ‘Do Less to Live More’, Christy addresses the harmful nature of hurrying and why we should instead appreciate and USE any pockets of free time that occur in our schedule – as free time. Be sure to read her article, it’s great. I’ve been taking her advice and feeling so much more relaxed because of it!
What about you? Do you try to cram one more thing into every window of opportunity, or do you take a minute to regroup when you find yourself with a little free time?
This weekend, Aaron and I celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary. At this stage of our lives ‘celebrating our anniversary’ often means carving out an hour or so for a quiet meal and a drive in between activities and this year was no different. Our son, Zak officially became an Eagle Scout today and the last few weeks, particularly the last few days have been marked by frenzied activity.
After all of the festivities ran down and we had a moment to rest, Aaron and I spent that dinner and drive talking about what we want our marriage to look like next year and in the next 18 years. I think it’s important to live intentionally – to continue to keep a finger on the pulse of all aspects of your life. In the past couple of years, we’ve allowed ourselves to ‘get too busy’ to be intentional about some things but I think we’re on the right track now and the conversation is ongoing.
Today wasn’t particularly romantic. But as we sat together, listening to our son give his acceptance speech this afternoon I knew that there was no where I’d rather be and no person I’d rather be living this life with.
Are there aspects of your life that you need to reevaluate? Take a few minutes today and do just that.
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PS – Obviously another thing that needs to change is the fact that we seldom take photos together! This is the only good shot I could find and it was a few years ago – although it’s still a favorite of mine. 🙂 So go take a picture with your honey for goodness sake!
Last week Coach Wright and I took our little family on a road trip, mostly to tour a couple of schools that our oldest is interested in (gasp – I can’t believe he’ll be off to college next fall).
Despite being on a fabulous fitness and nutrition streak prior to our departure, those nine days were a vacation from EVERYTHING. Other than setting up posts to ensure that our followers wouldn’t feel like they were being neglected, we almost completely unplugged and let the vacation vibe take over.
It was wonderful!
But hours in the car, no kitchen, and late nights driving or bingeing on the Food network (my poor cable impaired foodies love those shows) means that our fitness, nutrition, and sleep were horribly neglected. Fortunately campus tours and sightseeing DID allow us to ‘get our steps’ (and then some) several days but at one point Aaron mentioned our bad choices and this is what we came up with.
We rarely take time off to travel and we make mostly good health choices during the course of our regular lives so this one week out of probably 100 (we hardly ever travel) really isn’t going to impact our health all that much.
So we enjoyed ourselves and each other. We completely relaxed and de-stressed.
And it was GREAT.
Lots of fitness programs can leave you feeling like you have to be super-human and perfect in order to be healthy. The reality is that doing your best, most of the time is probably sufficient – maybe not to win a triathlon or to compete in a bodybuilding competition – but it’s certainly enough to help you look and feel good. And that’s all most of us are looking for.
Now I need to make a grocery store run before I resort to a mustard sandwich for dinner tonight!
So, take a break if you need to and then jump back in to
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‘Rapport talk’ the language of inclusion that we learn in our family of origin and being mindful of how those tools work with different people can help us better communicate with the people we care about and work with.